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A more advanced aspect, although controversial as to the effectiveness of it, is mirroring of blinking and breathing.
Being able to mirror the breathing and blinking will create an even deeper rapport.
Mirroring is about making a connection with the unconscious mind. When you show a person's unconscious mind that you understand it - the unconscious responds very favorably.
One of the ways to communicate this message of understanding to the unconscious is to communicate outside of your subject's conscious awareness. A good example of something that occurs outside of a person's conscious sphere is breathing. You breathe all day long but for the most part you're not conscious of it. You don't think about your breathing.
So if you send a message to the person's unconscious that you're paying attention to this unconscious process (breathing), the unconscious mind begins to listen closely and feel as if you are its friend.
But be careful to not be over zealous in this effort because in concentrating too hard on the breathing and blinking you might miss a beat in the conversation which can cause you to appear as being absent minded, bored, or not caring about what your subject is talking about. This will create an opposite and negative image to the one you are trying to make in the mind of the person you are conversing with.Just try to let it come natural and don't worry too much. It takes practice and doesn't (and normally won't) happen all in one day.
Blinking and Breathing
Try to gently and casually notice (without staring) the other person's blinking pattern and breathing rhythm. And slowly try to time it exactly or near to that time. This should be done when you feel that a certain level of familiarity and ease has set into the conversation. All the steps of the mirroring techniques should be done first.
Aligning the blinking and breathing with the other person will naturally bring the two of you closer and on the same page creating a more relaxed, trusted and comfortable atmosphere between the two of you.
Note: This advanced technique should be eased into place and not rushed into.
Don't panic to try and align your blinking and breathing pattern to theirs' by doing it faster or harder. This will bring your efforts to the conscious level. And once your conversing partner becomes aware of what you are trying to do, it renders all your efforts useless and a waste of time, not to mention you appearing as a manipulator in their eyes. This is why this technique is for the advanced stage and should only be implemented once you have mastered the step by step techniques to mirroring in body language.
Thanks but what about if I don't have a lot of time to build rapport?
Read InfoTank article on Instant Rapport!
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